It took most of my life to realise that I was hiding behind a mask.
Not just one – but many – one for every situation – at home, at work, with friends, with family, at networking & social events.
You see, the reason why is that I was so afraid of showing my true self, of saying what I wanted to say – in every circumstance. I tried to be what everyone wanted to see in me – not who I truly was.
If you don’t think this affects you – ask yourself if you have ever said ‘yes’ to something you wanted to say ‘no’ too. Thought so!
This was compounded by a lifetime managing OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), GAD (Generalised Anxiety Disorder) and Anxiety.
Being a highly successful, highly functioning but highly anxious business person got me so far – until I had a breakdown. Outside of a Premier Inn! Classy guy eh, I choose my breakdowns well! J
It’s funny – when you feel you have nothing to lose – you will try anything.
I chose Public Speaking. I spoke to a trusted network of people that I belonged to.
It was cheap therapy (literally – I couldn’t afford therapy at the time!).
Showing our true selves
Those fears we have about showing our true selves – of not being liked, being judged or hated – dispelled as everyone I spoke to either offered help, love or resonated with what I was saying.
Fast forward to today – my biggest adversity in life has forged my most exciting future.
I am a Professional (ie it’s my job!) Inspirational Speaker – speaking Worldwide on my own experiences of Anxiety and sharing my insights, tools, tips & techniques.
I Speak for the top Banks, Global Law Firms, International Conferences, Events & Expos & Boardrooms all over the world.
It’s nuts. Truly.
But to me – those years of struggling – have now been made worthwhile – and I get to help tens of thousands of people along the way.
The truth is liberating – now take that mask off…